How to Get Over the ‘We’re Not Going to Be Friends’ Bias
By JAY ANNE RYAN | The American Conservatives | November 20, 2017 at 11:57AM Dear White People,We’re not going to be friends, we’re not.
It doesn’t matter what you think of your skin color.
We are not going be friends.
That’s not who you are.
We aren’t friends.
The American conservative movement has always believed in a white identity politics that rejects and distorts the idea of human equality and seeks to destroy white identity itself.
We have always been against multiculturalism.
We reject the idea that diversity is a virtue.
We’ve fought to deny the existence of racism, sexism and homophobia.
We believe that we’re all born with the same potential.
We support the right of people of color to achieve their full potential, including their full humanity.
But this white identity-politics has also served to marginalize and exclude people of colour.
For example, during the first Black History Month of my lifetime, white people were outraged by the idea in 2016 that a Black person had won the Nobel Peace Prize.
And, like the previous year, white supremacists were horrified when a woman, Latina, won the Presidency of the United States.
And so it goes.
And now, during this time of election season, we are hearing a lot of stories about white people, and white racism, being called names and threatened.
And that has to change.
It has to be changed.
The time is right to change the way we speak about white racism.
The racist narrative is a lie.
It’s a lie that is manufactured and perpetuated by white supremacist groups and by white media outlets.
It is a myth.
And the more we challenge it, the more white people will hear it.
White people have a responsibility to stop pretending like they are a homogenous group that exists in the same universe as all others.
White people are people of diverse cultures, backgrounds, experiences, opinions, values and aspirations.
We need to take this opportunity to talk about this problem and start working together to end it.
So, white friends, please be on your best behavior during this holiday season.
If you feel threatened, you’re not alone.
And please don’t take the bait.
This is not about you.
This isn’t about white privilege.
This election is about all of us.
White friends, you have the power to change this dynamic.
And your white privilege can be a weapon in the fight against white supremacy.
You can be an ally in the battle against white identity.
You don’t need to be a white person.
We don’t all have to be white.
White folks can be allies.
We can be friends and allies.
And we can do better.